Sometimes where there is nothing else for it, a marriages and relationships need to go their own way. Perhaps most difficult in discussing divorce arrangements are the white-hot emotional content of so many of the issues. If you have children, it’s important that things go as smoothly as possible to minimize the impact on them as much as can be managed. Even if you don’t have kids, any relationship break down can affect many areas of your life for a long time.
There are likely questions that one typically doesn’t think about, but are important to consider. For example:
- Should you, or can you reconcile?
- Trial separation?
- Formal or informal?
- Counseling? Who pays?
- What’s the real commitment of each of you?
When children are involved, even more complex and painful are the issues to agree upon, such as:
- Time spent with each parent
- Holidays and summer custody arrangements?
- What to do if one of the parents leaves the area?
- Any agreements about Mom’s and Dad’s behavior when with children
- Child Support issues
- Special needs children
- College expenses and taxes
- Rights to fertilized eggs
Though it is usually a good plan to keep calm and work things out logically, sometimes it takes a counselor or mediator to provide support and guidance to help you make this difficult transition easier for you and your family.